"Six Ways to Make People Like You"
Rule #1 : Become genuinely interested in people
1) Do this and you be welcome anywhere."
2)" You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
3)"Ask questions to other people, questions that they will enjoy answering".
1) Do this and you be welcome anywhere."
2)" You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
3)"Ask questions to other people, questions that they will enjoy answering".
It is important to give people interest because they'll find you interesting and like you.They'll also like the idea that your interested in them or in their work so they'll talk to you. However, if you do try this make sure not to talk so much about yourself but, instead talk about them or their work. Although do be aware of the things you say and how you approach them otherwise the whole thin can go wrong and they'll instead look at you as a creep. A creep who will only do no good to them. Moreover, if you try this method try asking the person or group interesting questions. For instance you may want to ask them something more precise that will bring about an interesting conversation between the two. This will only get them more interested into talking to you. An in the end they'll probably even find some great common things about you that you both share. Furthermore, its nice meeting a person who doesn't only talk about themselves to others but can instead have a great conversation with another.
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you".
A new way on how i can apply this new rule in my life is by being more interactive with others. Having random conversations with people i have never met although approaching them in a nice way that wouldn't look to forward or be awkward. Then ask him/ her or the group questions that i think will interest them into answering. Of course shortly after i will have more a less a conversation than having an interview or integration.
Rule #2: Smile
1)" Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says,"I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2)You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3)" It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
The more you smile the more it affects you in a positive way. It helps create happiness and good things to come your way. Also If you just smile more it'll help you out on your day. It'll help you by putting on a positive attitude, and feeling good about yourself. Moreover its always nice to smile because it gives people the thought of you always being a joyous person. Which is on a positive note because then they'll probably go up to you and talk to you. This will then increase your chances of making friends and getting people to like you. It will form friendships, and possibly relationships. Therefore, don't hesitate to smile. Do it, it ll do you good.
I will apply this new attribute by smiling more, being happier, thinking nicer things and over all thinking in a positive way. For the reasons of it making me look better and feeling better. So i deeply encourage everyone to start their day off with a smile. It's the best thing you can wear on your face rather thank makeup.
Rule #3: Remember Names
1) " A man's names is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) " If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Remembering names is extremely important because you always want to know who your talking to. Along with who that person is in particular. Moreover, if you ask for their name you'll know what to call them by. An if anyone ever asks who they are you can always step forward and say their name. In addition, knowing people's names makes you look good in the aspect of remembering things and listening. So make yourself look good it'll attract people's attention. It will also make you look good to the person because they'll know you have an interest in them. Nonetheless it shows great character when someone remembers some body else's name. So i encourage everyone and myself to remember people's names and places because it shows that you know who, what, and where you or this person is. It also shows that you are aware of them and their identity.
I will apply this new attribute by trying to remember people's names. Along with titles of books and places or other things that are just as important. You should too as well to make yourself look good and look like you know what you are talking about.
How to Remember Names:
I will apply this rule by being more quiet and listening to what other people have to say. Also by having a conversation with another person and hearing their own thought, suggestions, opinions and being open minded.
Five Active Listening Tips:
Rule #3: Remember Names
1) " A man's names is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) " If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Remembering names is extremely important because you always want to know who your talking to. Along with who that person is in particular. Moreover, if you ask for their name you'll know what to call them by. An if anyone ever asks who they are you can always step forward and say their name. In addition, knowing people's names makes you look good in the aspect of remembering things and listening. So make yourself look good it'll attract people's attention. It will also make you look good to the person because they'll know you have an interest in them. Nonetheless it shows great character when someone remembers some body else's name. So i encourage everyone and myself to remember people's names and places because it shows that you know who, what, and where you or this person is. It also shows that you are aware of them and their identity.
I will apply this new attribute by trying to remember people's names. Along with titles of books and places or other things that are just as important. You should too as well to make yourself look good and look like you know what you are talking about.
How to Remember Names:
- Face Association: Create an association between the characteristic, the face, and the name in mind.
- Repetition: Ask the person to repeat their name
- Spell it out
- Word Play
- Associate the name with objects or animals
- Write it down
- Consider asking
- Turn the name into a visual memory
- Get help from a friend
- Study the person's face or other distinctive features
Rule #4: Be a good listener. Encourage other's to talk about themselves.
1."If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
2. " Remember that the man that you are talking to is hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
Based on my experiences through out my life i have come to notice that everyone likes someone who is a great listener. They think there someone worth talking to because they will actually listen to what one has to say. Therefore, i myself have learned to become a great listener too. It helps me understand the concept better or get to know someone better. Moreover when you are having a conversation with someone you want to give them the idea that your interested into learning more about them so ask them more questions to continue with the conversation. Then you'll really get to know the person for who they are and what kind of a person they really are or how they feel. Nonetheless, when your interested into working for a job you have to make sure your listening at all times to not make a mistake. Otherwise you'll be dismissed from your position and somebody else will come and take over. So i strongly, suggest and encourage everyone to become a great listener. You'll be surprised by some of the things that you hear or even get to know i can guarantee that.
I will apply this rule by being more quiet and listening to what other people have to say. Also by having a conversation with another person and hearing their own thought, suggestions, opinions and being open minded.
Five Active Listening Tips:
- Stay focus
- Keep natural eye contact
- don't judge
- Allow for periods of silence
- Repeat the other persons words or paraphrase them
- Understand the emotions behind the words
Rule #5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest
1. " The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
I believe that if you want to interest someone you should talk to them about the things that they treasure most. Or the things that are most important them. Like for example, if i went over to a young lady and started to talk to her(trying to form a conversation) all she would think is, who is this person and why is he or her talking to me. However, if you bring up a good question to start off the conversation like what are the things you treasure most he or she would give you smile as in response to a good question. Then from there you two can start talking to each other about the things you think are most important to you. Surely after the two of you will share something in common and be interested to know more about the person.
I will appply this by trying to ask this question." What things do you treasure most."
Rule #6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
1. " The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Making a person feel important is one of the kindest and nicest things to do. It is so because sometimes people don't recognize themselves as someone important, when they really should. Although perhaps it is because no one has every told them that they are. Or have even given them the idea or thought that they mean something to somebody like their parents? Therefore, we should always make a person feel good about about themselves. An have them know what they mean to you. There is a possible that it'll be the first time they have heard that. So be nice to people. Make people see how truly important they are. Make them realize that someone out there in the world does care. Most importantly do it out of kindness and honestly. Don't do it to look good or impress them.
I will apply this new rule by telling people that i feel are most important to me know what they mean to me and express my feelings and thoughts to them. Not only the people i feel most closest to me but also to ones i think need a little love and kindness. We may never know we might just make their day get better. So give it a try and say something nice today to someone.
25 Ways to make people feel important
1. Listen with respect
2. Praise him/her in front of other people
3.Tell him/her your proud of them
4.Tell him/her that you believe in them
5.Celebrate with them their success
6.Hear what they have to say
7.Give them genuine compliments
8.Pay attention to them (give them your undivided attention)
9.Tell her/him "good job" when they've done something good
10.Ask them about some of their dreams/goals
11.Let them know what they mean to you
12.Tell them how special they are to you
13.Say good things about her to someone else
14.Don't judge their differences
15.Make them feel proud of who they are
16. Make them happy and smile
17.Make their day better
18.Tell them how they made a difference in your life
19.Buy them gifts
20.Do something nice for them
21.Cheer them up when there down
22.Let them know you care about them
23.Always lend them a hand when they need it
24.Give them support and comfort
25.Share your feelings with them
Reflection:
All in all in regards to the six ways everyone should try to apply the rules to make other people like them. They do help and give great advice so i strongly would suggest for everyone to start applying themselves to these new rules. They will not only give you great advice on how to make a conversation but they will also lead you to a great start on how to greet yourself to people and keep the conversation going. That is why i myself will also apply to these new rules because they would make me grow by making me develop my speaking in public skills stronger. Not only that but they will also make me learn new ways on how to communicate with people.
Rule #6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
1. " The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Making a person feel important is one of the kindest and nicest things to do. It is so because sometimes people don't recognize themselves as someone important, when they really should. Although perhaps it is because no one has every told them that they are. Or have even given them the idea or thought that they mean something to somebody like their parents? Therefore, we should always make a person feel good about about themselves. An have them know what they mean to you. There is a possible that it'll be the first time they have heard that. So be nice to people. Make people see how truly important they are. Make them realize that someone out there in the world does care. Most importantly do it out of kindness and honestly. Don't do it to look good or impress them.
I will apply this new rule by telling people that i feel are most important to me know what they mean to me and express my feelings and thoughts to them. Not only the people i feel most closest to me but also to ones i think need a little love and kindness. We may never know we might just make their day get better. So give it a try and say something nice today to someone.
25 Ways to make people feel important
1. Listen with respect
2. Praise him/her in front of other people
3.Tell him/her your proud of them
4.Tell him/her that you believe in them
5.Celebrate with them their success
6.Hear what they have to say
7.Give them genuine compliments
8.Pay attention to them (give them your undivided attention)
9.Tell her/him "good job" when they've done something good
10.Ask them about some of their dreams/goals
11.Let them know what they mean to you
12.Tell them how special they are to you
13.Say good things about her to someone else
14.Don't judge their differences
15.Make them feel proud of who they are
16. Make them happy and smile
17.Make their day better
18.Tell them how they made a difference in your life
19.Buy them gifts
20.Do something nice for them
21.Cheer them up when there down
22.Let them know you care about them
23.Always lend them a hand when they need it
24.Give them support and comfort
25.Share your feelings with them
Reflection:
All in all in regards to the six ways everyone should try to apply the rules to make other people like them. They do help and give great advice so i strongly would suggest for everyone to start applying themselves to these new rules. They will not only give you great advice on how to make a conversation but they will also lead you to a great start on how to greet yourself to people and keep the conversation going. That is why i myself will also apply to these new rules because they would make me grow by making me develop my speaking in public skills stronger. Not only that but they will also make me learn new ways on how to communicate with people.
